When was the last time you gave yourself permission to not be anything? To live in a space and time completely undefined.
When we’re moving through a period in life of significant transition...
Transition in or out of a relationship
Transition into a relationship with ourselves
Transition into a better understanding of who we are
Transitions into redefining who we are
We so often rush it. We don’t like being in that space, where everything is undefined, nothing “makes sense” in a traditional way.
If you’ve recently been through a trying time or you’re in a trying time.
If you’re just out of a significant relationship or so effing over the way relationships, have been panning out for you.
I want to encourage you to do something really “crazy.”
I want you to take an entire year off. I don’t mean quit your job and run away to an island somewhere necessarily.
I want you to take an entire year not to define any relationship other than your one to self. Even then, don’t necessarily focus on self-work in the traditional sense.
Take one year to put aside all expectations in dating, familial relationships, even friendships.
Take one year just to exist.
Don’t worry about “wasting time” that’s impossible, it’s going to work out how it will.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to stay present in the space that’s created when you’re not pushing towards achieving something.
Be in the space, a bit lost even.
When you’re in this space, lessons naturally happen.