"I don't know."
Recently I was working with a mentor learning about Akashik Record reading. This is something I'm SO excited to delve into more and a modality I hope to bring to my coaching services in the future.
As we moved through clearing and some other practices around alignment, she taught me different phrases and ways to access spiritual energy.
During our conversation, she paused for a moment and shared that one must always avoid saying, "I don't know." She explained that that phrase opens up the Universe to throwing any and everything at you. Why?
When you say "I don't know," you generally have full meaning behind it. It's not like saying "I'm doing well" when you feel like shit. You still feel the not great feeling. When people say "I don't know," they are most feeling the unknown of that moment.
This made perfect sense to me immediately.
Back in 2016, before I ended a long-term relationship and engagement, I was saying, "I don't know" all the time.
I don't know if I should leave him.
I don't know what I want.
I don't know how to do this.
I don't know what tomorrow holds.
I was so confused all the time, and every time another thing hit me, it was "I don't know" all over again.
I was in a never-ending cycle of receiving all these things I wanted and didn't want. In one moment, I'd feel clarity around a decision, and the next, I'd receive a text that threw me for yet another loop.
It was like I was on a pendulum swinging between two extremes each and every day. I had no balance, only the momentum of "I don't know" pushing me to and fro.
One day I was driving back from horseback riding thinking about this phrase that was taking over my life—thinking about indecisiveness and how harmful it is.
I was at a red light, and I looked at myself in the review mirror, and I said, "You're done saying 'I don't know'" Commit and decide. You can always choose differently in the future.
Don't get me wrong; there were still many times when "I don't know" entered my mind or passed through my lips. Within seconds though, I would change it. "Well, let me think this through," I would say to the person I was speaking with. Or "Wait a second, think about this." if it was an internal monologue.
Soon enough, I had all but eliminated that phrase from my vocabulary, and it's served me so well. It's taught me to be more deliberate with my speech, it's encouraged me to think through situations or problems that are at hand and focus on the outcome I want vs. the unknowns I'm feeling.
I want this for you. I want you to drop the "I don't know" as we head into 2021.
If you do one thing differently next year let it be this.
Remove this phrase from your life entirely and replace it with "I need more information..." or "Let me think about..." or "How can I approach this differently?"
Because you do know, darling, you know in your heart of hearts what the right choice is. You know what you really want, you know what the next step is.
Take the power back, remove that sentence from your life and watch what amazing positive shifts come from it.