What to do When Your Life is "Falling Apart"

You have the opportunity before you, but it really just looks like dead ends, terrifying endings, or complete unknowns.

Maybe your job is shifting, or you realize you need a new one but can’t find one to save your life. Or perhaps you’re in a relationship and realize that it’s not fitting the you who you currently are. You know that something has shifted, and you can’t tell if it means you need to leave or need to work on it differently.

You don’t even feel at home in your home or city anymore.

Everything feels off, dissonant from what you want. It’s uncomfortable, like your skin is crawling, or you’ve become a square peg in the round hole of your life.

Part of you wishes you could disappear into the night and move a thousand miles away and wake up in a new life, any life but this one.

Darling, I have been there.

It’s so hard to see when you’re in the thick of the moment, but this moment is for YOU, and it’s your intuition and your soul coming to the surface in such a strong way that it will not be ignored anymore.

This level of discomfort is the ultimate in personal growing pains. More often than not, if you haven’t been paying attention to the signs, you’re feeling this so strongly because your soul had no other choice than to get you this uncomfortable to get your attention.

FUCK, so what do you do when you’re here?

Start with these steps, feel the release, and THEN you can start moving forward.

You need to back off of everything. If it feels stressful or untrue to you, stop doing it, or find a counterbalance. I realize when this happens with your job, it’s hard to just up and quit your job, but you can find a counterbalance.

1. The first thing I want you to do is to take the pressure off. Stop trying to force the answer to the question. Stop applying to every job you see. Stop trying to push your significant other into doing things or trying to find the answer within yourself. STOP doing everything if it relates to the things in your life that are stressing you out. 

2. Write it all out. Write a note to your life. Seriously you need to get all the noise out of your head if you’re going to get clear on what you need. You need to get the noise and negativity OUT. If writing isn’t your thing go on a long drive and talk to yourself out loud. Again, you need to get it OUT of your mind. That’s the only way to stop cyclical thinking. It can look like this “Dear life, you’re a real pain in the ass right now. I can’t believe you keep delivering low blow after low blow… I’m so resentful of you. How could this be happening? Why did you let ____ turn out the way it did?” Let yourself go, rant, and release. 

3. Ask yourself, “What is it I think I need?” Let your brain answer this one completely - answer with all the tactical stuff that you feel the pressure to be doing. 

4. Ask yourself, “What is it that I really need?” Before you ask this question, get calm. Go take a wa